I’m tempted to begin this post with the words “We’ve all been arrested at some time or another”; but that isn’t exactly true, is it? Some people reading this might never have been arrested, and perhaps never will. Either too law-abiding, or too smart to get caught. For others, getting arrested might even be an occupational hazard.
Whilst habitual criminality is strictly against the Third Millennium Man principles of becoming a better man, it is also true that the best weapon in a gentleman’s arsenal is simply to be prepared. So this post is simply here to help you be prepared – by way of knowing your rights, knowing what to expect and knowing what to do – should you ever be arrested in the UK.
Throughout this article we’re going to keep referring to the official UK Government website and add a few insights and explanations of our own. Our contribution will be the part in italics.
Even if you’re reading this outside the UK, it’s still going to be worth reading. There’s plenty here that can apply if you ever get arrested, within your own legal jurisdiction.
Third Millennium Man does NOT condone law-breaking in any way.
What happens when you are arrested.
The first aspect we’re going to examine is what the UK police can and can’t do. The police do have certain powers, and it’s as well to know what these are.
Police powers of arrest: your rights
To arrest you the police need reasonable grounds to suspect you’re involved in a crime for which your arrest is necessary.
The police have powers to arrest you anywhere and at any time, including on the street, at home or at work.
The police arrest procedure
If you’re arrested the police must:
identify themselves as the police
tell you that you’re being arrested
tell you what crime they think you’ve committed
explain why it’s necessary to arrest you
explain to you that you’re not free to leave
If you’re under 17 the police should only arrest you at school if it’s unavoidable, and they must inform your headteacher.
The police must also contact your parents, guardian or carer as soon as possible after your arrival at the police station.
Police powers to use reasonable force
If you try to escape or become violent, the police can use ‘reasonable force’, eg holding you down so you can’t run off.
You can also be handcuffed.
The police have powers to search you when you’re arrested.
Okay, time to stop and think about this. When the police tell you what is going on, and that you are being arrested, they will ask you if you have anything to say. This is when you tell the officer that you DO have something to say, and that you would like him to write it down.
First, you confirm your name and address. You say it clearly, slowly enough for the officer to write down, and spell out for him any awkward words. You then say the following; “I am NOT resisting arrest. I do, however, intend to sue for WRONGFUL ARREST, after I have been released.”
Why would you do this? Because the police are adverse to legal action as much as anybody else. You have stated your intention to sue them for Wrongful Arrest (a statement they will take very seriously); you have also made it clear who you actually are, effectively cancelling out their “mistaken identity” get-out excuse. And by stating clearly and calmly that you are not resisting arrest, you remove the threat of any rough-handed treatment.
When you are Arrested.
1. When you’re arrested
If you’re arrested, you’ll usually be taken to a police station, held in custody in a cell and then questioned.
see a written notice telling you about your rights, eg regular breaks for food and to use the toilet (you can ask for a notice in your language) or an interpreter to explain the notice
You’ll be searched and your possessions will be kept by the police custody officer while you’re in the cell.
MAKE SURE that any searches, and anything you hand over, are recorded. That way there is no question of you getting your stuff back. And by making the process slightly longer, the more likely the officer is to treat you with a great deal more care. YOU ARE WITHIN YOUR RIGHTS to get everything like this written down; there’s even a tiny chance that the officer may get fed up with the laborious paperwork burden and release you a little sooner….
Young people under 18 and vulnerable adults
The police must try to contact your parent, guardian or carer if you’re under 18 or a vulnerable adult.
They must also find an ‘appropriate adult’ to come to the station to help you and be present during questioning and searching. An appropriate adult can be:
The police may question you about the crime you’re suspected of – this will be recorded. You don’t have to answer the questions but there could be consequences if you don’t. The police must explain this to you by reading you the police caution:
“You do not have to say anything. But, it may harm your defence if you do not mention when questioned something which you later rely on in court. Anything you do say may be given in evidence.”
2. How long you can be held in custody
The police can hold you for up to 24 hours before they have to charge you with a crime or release you.
They can apply to hold you for up to 36 or 96 hours if you’re suspected of a serious crime, eg murder.
You can be held without charge for up to 14 days If you’re arrested under the Terrorism Act.
When you can be released on bail
The police can release you on police bail if there’s not enough evidence to charge you. You don’t have to pay to be released on police bail, but you’ll have to return to the station for further questioning when asked.
You can be released on conditional bail if the police charge you and think that you may:
commit another offence
fail to turn up at court
intimidate other witnesses
obstruct the course of justice
This means your freedom will be restricted in some way, eg they can impose a curfew on you if your offence was committed at night.
3. Giving fingerprints, photographs and samples
The police have the right to take photographs of you. They can also take fingerprints and a DNA sample (eg from a mouth swab or head hair root) from you as well as swab the skin surface of your hands and arms. They don’t need your permission to do this.
The police need both your permission and the authority of a senior police officer to take samples like blood or urine, or to take dental impressions.
This doesn’t apply when they take a blood or urine sample in connection with drink or drug driving.
Information from fingerprints and samples is stored in a police database.
They’ll only do this if an offence no longer exists or if anything in the police process (eg how you were arrested or detained) was unlawful.
4. Legal advice at the police station
Your right to free legal advice
Note to Third Millennium Men – ALWAYS have legal representation. If you don’t have a solicitor, then take the offer of free advice. We don’t care how often you’ve watched Luther, the Duty Solicitor knows far more about the Law as it affects your case than you do.
You have the right to free legal advice (legal aid) if you’re questioned at a police station. You can change your mind later if you turn it down.
How you can get free legal advice
You must be told about your right to free legal advice after you’re arrested and before you’re questioned at a police station. You can:
ask for the police station’s ‘duty solicitor’ – they’re available 24 hours a day and independent of the police
tell the police you would like legal advice – the police will contact the Defence Solicitor Call Centre (DSCC)
ask the police to contact a solicitor, eg your own one
You may be offered legal advice over the phone instead of a duty solicitor if you’re suspected of having committed a less serious offence, eg being disorderly. The advice is free and independent of the police.
Being questioned without legal advice
Once you’ve asked for legal advice, the police can’t question you until you’ve got it – with some exceptions.
The police can make you wait for legal advice in serious cases, but only if a senior officer agrees.
The longest you can be made to wait before getting legal advice is 36 hours after arriving at the police station (or 48 hours for suspected terrorism).
You have the right to free legal advice if you are questioned by the police.
“I came here to read about cooler stuff than BOOKS!”
Yeah, whatever. Let’s break this down to basics, shall we? You’re here on the Third Millennium Man website because you want to better yourself, am I right? You want to raise your game. Well you’re in the right place to do it. The entire Third Millennium Man website is full of original, useful stuff to help you do that. But here is another, revolutionary and low-cost way to bring purpose to your day; to sharpen your focus and to upload new software into that computer that sits on top of your shoulders. You may have heard of this technique; it’s called reading books.
Think you are wasting your time? Well let me state something here and now. Whatever you are doing; whatever you plan to do or aspire to do; wherever you’ve been; whatever you are interested in; somebody somewhere has written a book on that subject. Sir Isaac Newton once said “If I have seen farther than most, it is because I have stood on the shoulders of giants”. The following post comprises a list of TEN ways in which you can do the same.
“But reading books is boring!”
Erm, really? Well may I just take this opportunity to get in your face, just for a minute. Here’s a revolutionary thought for you:
If you think reading books is boring, you’re just reading the wrong stuff.
If you have a low opinion of reading, then it’s probably from your school days. Of course, the texts they gave you at school were boring. You read them because you had to, and you’d get into trouble if you didn’t. It’s a rare teenager that actually appreciates the sub-plots within Shakespeare, or the motifs within classic texts. But don’t worry; that’s not the kind of reading we’re talking about. We are about to look at TEN incredibly useful books which are hand-selected by the Third Millennium Man team.
YES we have actually read them.
YES they do indeed have the potential to change your life.
YES we’ve included Amazon UK links to make the purchase of these amazing books nice and easy for you.
Of course when it comes to self-improvement, reading a book is only half the battle. It’s still down to you to use than information and put your new knowledge into practice. So with that caveat in mind, here is the first one of our AMAZING books that every man needs to, indeed has to read.
There comes a point in life where you just aren’t happy with things the way they are any more. Thinks like work just get you down.
“You know, I’d love to run my OWN business” is the common thought. “all I need is a good idea.” We then sit there (or carry on with life as normal) and just assume that a brilliant, flawless and lucrative business idea will just burst out of the air.
Read this book, and it probably will do.
It says something about a book when it inspires you into action – before you’re even halfway through the thing. That’s what it’s done here at Third Millennium Man, to the extent that we’ve all now purchased individual copies. Such is the profound effect of this book.
The content is only 109 pages so it’s perfectly readable in one sitting – but you are going to want to read this book again and again, just in case you’ve missed something. It’s that brilliant.
The techniques listed for the generation of (potentially) successful business ideas seems so basic and rudimentary, you’ll wonder why this stuff has never dawned on you before. The techniques are enjoyable and come with the thrill of creating something. And naturally, the techniques can be applied to situations outside the world of business. Once you grasp it, it’ll become second nature and that’s when you take the bull by the horns and start tackling life head-on.
This inspirational, potentially life-changing book costs under a fiver. That’s a fiver, for goodness sakes. Less than a cheap bottle of wine. It’s cheaper than a packet of cigarettes or fish & chips. So what are you waiting for? Buy it – click the link below.
Ah, school. They don’t teach you in school how to balance your budget and even (gasp) actually make some money, do they? But that algebra and stuff about oxbow lakes might come in handy one day, so thank you for that.
Forget about talking things over with that guy at your bank. He’s interested in selling you the bank’s products because he’s on commission and has sales targets. And what makes him the expert on money anyway? The guy still has to work for a living, so he can’t be that good.
This book changes all that. It stops way short of making you the Governor of the Bank of England; it doesn’t make you the City whiz-kid who makes a fortune on the Stock Market one wet afternoon. What it does do is to impart sensible, reliable advice on money. It tells you what financial products are what, and what they do; always a good thing.
But the bulk of the book is about the importance of financial goal-setting, and getting into good habits. If you spend every penny of your salary each month as you count down to Pay Day, then this book is for you.
If you started 2016 in the same way as you started 2015 and 2014 – with precisely zip in the bank – then this book is for you. It will help you knuckle down and see what’s wrong with your finances. It’ll help you identify where you’re leaking money, and advise you on how to fix it. So then you start saving money – and this book shows you what best to do with this excess. Multiply that over several years (think how quickly the last five have passed!) and suddenly you’re a Third Millennium Man of means. Congratulations.
I learned so much from this book, it’s unbelievable. I won’t go into it all now (this post is long enough as it is) but I hope that the tiny investment required in this book pays you dividends. Just remember, reading is only half the story; it’s down to you to implement what you’ve learned.
The first copy of this book was brought to Third Millennium Man’s attention in digital format. We soon bought a copy in print. Each.
It’s quite possibly one of the best, most inspirational books we’ve ever read.
A bit of a bold statement, we agree. So let’s just talk you through it….
In a nutshell, Tim Ferriss now owns – not ‘runs’ per se – a business that earns him enough money to do what the heck he wants, anywhere around the world. His total involvement with this money-machine? Around four hours each week.
The magic word is Automation. His company advertises products online, and a customer places an order which is automatically taken care of by an Order Fulfillment Company on his behalf. When they get low on product, their stock is automatically replenished from the manufacturer. Any issues, any customer complaints, are dealt with by a Call Centre in India on a retainer. So Ferriss can walk away and leave things running as they are (save from the odd emergency call from India once in a blue moon) and retain a handsome profit once everyone in the chain has been paid.
Sounds amazing, doesn’t it? This book shows you how it was done, and how you can do it too.
The book does not give you the initial idea of what to sell (see the first of our recommended books to help you there!) which isn’t really such a bad thing as the marketplace would soon be flooded. Also Tim’s writing style is pretty full-on; we put that down to the irrepressible, natural enthusiasm of the dear chap. Some sections you’ll have to wade through to get to the good stuff, but it is worth it. Oh, and it’s highly American – not really a surprise as Tim Ferriss is pure Californian – but he seems ever so keen to point out just how well traveled he is, so maybe the Third Edition might be tailored towards a world beyond the USA borders. We can but hope.
This is one of those books where reading it isn’t enough. It has to be acted upon to realise it’s true value. There’s plenty of small-wins in there though, such as performance-hacks which are a doddle to implement. The Third Millennium Man office now only checks email twice a day. But we defy anyone to read it and NOT come away with big dreams of making this plan work for them.
Above all else, this book is a window on a world you didn’t even know about; a world where people own money-making businesses that operate automatically while they get on with life. The rest of your life is out there waiting for you to come and claim it. For less than ten quid.
Click on the link below and buy it. It could be the most important book you buy this year.
One of the subjects which fascinates us at Third Millennium Man is ‘social interaction’. Or, to put it plainly, the way in which people communicate with each other, how they relate to one another, and how they assimilate into some sort of social order with the top guys at the top and the lesser guys beneath. We at Third Millennium Man make it our mission to provide you the reader with the tools you need to get to the top of that pile.
I mention this because of a dinner party I went to recently. There were many learned and distinguished gentlemen there, and the conversation carried across a wide range of stimulating topics. I was left with a sense however of the social order of the group; it was the scientists among us who were able to display their knowledge, their mental agility more so than anybody else. The scientists could discuss finance with the business men and the money men, but held the group in silent, spellbound awe on matters of science, from GM crops to astronomy to psychology. There was no doubt who was top of the social order that night.
So how can a Third Millennium Man raise his game? By reading, and reading well. Which brings us, by way of a lengthy introduction, to this book.
Forget those turgid, dense science-books they made you read in school. They were written by scientists. This book, you’ll be pleased to know, was written by a writer. And it shows. The content is in delicious plain English. Bill Bryson has studied what must have been a floor-to-ceiling stack of science books, met with scientists, traveled to all different places, and has written it all down in (possibly) the simplest and easiest to follow format we at Third Millennium Man have seen in a long while.
What you’re left with is an overview of various scientific fields – Astronomy, Geology, Paleontology, amongst a bunch of others – showing where a particular field of science is, how it got there, and what the future may or may not hold. Yes it might be heavy going in one or two places; you’re welcome to pick up his source material anytime and see if that’s any clearer. We think Bryson does an excellent job of explaining super-complex notions in everyday English, and that’s what makes this book a worthy addition to every Third Millennium Man’s bookshelf.
We have one tiny niggle about this book, and that is the lack of a Further Reading section. It’s so well written and nurtures a genuine interest in various scientific fields, that we felt we wanted to know a lot more. A small list of recommended follow-up reading would have been the icing on what is already one heck of a cake. The fact that such strong interest has been stirred anyway is testament to the quality of the writing and the value of this book. Bryson has successfully breathed colour into some grey, dreary subjects. The lack of such a list takes nothing away from the book, it’s just us being too lazy to find these things out for ourselves.
Ignoring our petty criticism, this book is an amazing read and provides an easy way for any Third Millennium Man to expand the depth and breadth of his knowledge. You’re unlikely to pick up women in pubs purely on the strength of this book (although that depends on which pub I suppose) but you’ll benefit in so many other ways. Don’t be put off by the size – well over 600 pages – there’s a lot of excellent stuff in there. At this price, it’s a steal.
This book is killer. It’s a serious game-changer for the heavyweight Third Millennium Man, by which we mean that this book ain’t for everyone. Some will be offended by the very notion that this book even exists.
Think about this for a second. This is, we’ve heard, the most requested book in US Prison libraries. Read into that whatever you wish.
That is not, nor is it intended to be, any comment upon the Author. We think Robert Greene’s work (other books as well as this one, which comprise the ‘collection’) are original works of historically-based psychology and analysis. He’s worked hard, and presented something that’s breathtakingly brilliant. They are really good books; well researched, well written and presented.
This book analyses the actions and motives of real people in history, with the emphasis on how those people created, harnessed, or in some cases lost or destroyed, their power. Each chapter contains detail, plus a synopsis, plus instruction regarding a particular Law.
If you’re a people-person or an anthropologist who enjoys reading books about the inner workings of the mind, then this is for you. If you have an eye on your Third Millennium Man career ladder and you’re determined to get to the top whatever the cost, then this book is definitely for you. Buy it and study it over and over. Make notes, read the notes daily, and then read the book again. It’s that compelling.
We’d go as far as to say success is (more or less) guaranteed if you act upon the contents of this book.
Like we said at the start though, this book isn’t for everyone. If you’d prefer to forgo the negative side of personal success in favour of just being a nice guy, then this volume isn’t going to be of much interest.
We’re guessing that you’ve heard of this book before. Just in case you haven’t – you need to. You won’t ever have read anything quite like this.
Okay, imagine this.
Imagine if, say, you had the power to walk up to a woman, any woman, and charm the pants off her. It doesn’t matter if she’s in a group, it doesn’t matter if she’s with her fiancé (note: on her Wedding Day might be a bit of a stretch). Imagine if, a few minutes after she catches you eye, you’ve got her phone number and she’s keen for you to call. Or if she’s leaving, five minutes after meeting you, on your arm and heading back to yours for a night of passionate sex. The most gorgeous woman in the whole place, and she’s all over you. Seem a bit pie-in-the-sky?
The Game is about a bunch of guys who can do exactly that. This stuff is actually happening. Neil Strauss tells the true story of how he joined such a group and got to the top. By way of applied psychology, technique, and sheer bravery (to overcome “approach anxiety”) he and several others did what the rest of us just dream about. They set themselves challenges; bedding celebrities, porn stars, street-walkers (for free); setting themselves speed challenges; the most girls at one time (so a ‘threesome’ is your fantasy, is it? You lightweight….).
While you have to read between the lines a bit to unearth bits and pieces you can actually apply and use yourself, it is still an entertaining, thought-provoking read. And although the book is written in the first-person and limited to a purely heterosexual perspective, there is plenty here of interest to our gay brethren who are also looking to raise their game.
This book does NOT tell you everything you need to know. You won’t buy it Monday, finish it by Thursday, and have the kind of Friday night you’re imagining right now this very instant. There’s a lot more to building Game, as you’d imagine. Consider this book as a primer, with the more in-depth stuff to follow.
You will never look at the dating scene, or even relationships in general, the same way again once you’ve read this. It will change your perspective forever.
So you might have already read the last book. You might have even pursued things a little further, and you’ve now got serious game. Congratulations. You’re now able to deal with things as they are.
This book, written by a leading scientist in the field, tells you why things are the way they are.
We all know women, right? And some men too. Why are they the way they are? Why do some people cheat on their partners so readily? Why are some people happier / more content than others? Why are people…….you know…….like THAT?
This book goes some way to unraveling the mysteries. It gets beyond the pure Freudian psychology and looks instead at the biology of what makes us who we are. It looks at traits people have and explains the unconscious, biological reasons behind them. It even identifies some of these characteristics among our fellow mammals (or even further into the animal kingdom).
This book is absolutely fascinating. Yes it can be hard going in places – we believe it wouldn’t be such a worthwhile read if it was dumbed down and made easier to follow. It’s written with the layman in mind. Stick with it; it will all make sense.
Buy this book and read it while the previous in our Books List is still fresh in your memory. It’s entertaining, revealing, and goes a long way to explaining the nutters in your world.
There’s a pretty good chance that you’ve already heard of this one. Some of you may have already read it. It is, by far and away, the most famous of the ten books on our Third Millennium Man list.
It’s been reprinted many times. It’s been translated into many different languages. And it still keeps selling. Why?
Because it really IS that good. I don’t care what self-improvement material you’ve read before; this one is the Daddy.
If you’ve never heard of this book, then you must have spent the last twenty years living in a cave. On Jupiter. With your eyes firmly closed and your fingers in your ears. It’s one of the most popular self-improvement books ever.
It goes beyond what it promises in the title. It’s a lesson in self-restraint. It’s a lesson in how to get along with people. You have to share this planet with so many others, so why not at least try to get along? This book teaches you a basic methodology for doing just that. In your quest to become a Third Millennium Man, this book teaches you the basics. It provides a masterclass in behaving yourself.
Buy a hardback copy. Read it once a month. Buy several copies, and pass them around. Give them away as presents at Christmas. Give a copy to your kids; they are the adults of tomorrow after all, and this book will go a long way to helping them become what you’ve been wishing for them all along.
One of our lesser-known books, this one. But we believe it’s as worthy an investment as any of the other books. Buy it, give it a chance. You’ll love it.
Josh Waitzkin started life ordinarily enough, but soon went on to become a chess prodigy. And along the way, he evolved a whole new learning methodology. This is your chance to pick up that methodology, and improve pretty much any area of your life you care to choose.
This book would be of the greatest value to students, undergraduates, or those taking their first career steps. You’ve got a steep hill ahead of you – this book ought to make things a little easier. Of course, anyone can benefit from it – imagine being able to learn languages within weeks, or mastering a work-related skill in no time at all. Self improvement in all areas is the essence of being a Third Millennium Man and you will have mastered it. Good show.
Buy this book, apply it, and then play with what you’ve learned. Go ahead and see how quickly you can learn Italian (note: you only need 2,000 words for 95% comprehension). Or coding. Or the works of Shakespeare. Or the other nine books on this list.
This book is another one which has the potential to change your entire life for the better. At this price, it would be a real shame not to.
So we’ve decided to make the last one of our books into a bit of a surprise for you. So far we’ve looked at books from which you will prosper, be more creative, and get laid a lot (caveat: IF you act upon what you’ve learned).
This book breaks away from all that. This book completes the Third Millennium Man picture. It deals with the outside bit of you. That’s the bit that the world sees first. So we’ve adjusted our focus from how a Third Millennium Man relates with the world, to how the world relates with him.
You may know the author from the TV show “Queer eye for the straight guy“. And he knows more about how to present yourself in a favourable way than anybody else we can think of.
Carson Kressley reminds me of a young man I know who works in an upmarket Gentleman’s Outfitters. When I’m in the market for a new suit, I go and see him first. This young man is one of the campest boys I know, but what he doesn’t understand about suits, isn’t worth knowing. I pick his brains, then shop somewhere cheaper. Here’s your chance to pick the author’s brains – and he is indeed an authority on the subject – and make something of the way you look.
His advice works at any age, and isn’t necessarily that expensive to follow. He does camp it up a bit, which as a writing style may not be to everyone’s taste. But it does not detract from the valuable information inside. In a sea of books on the subject (and some at incredibly high prices). this is the one Third Millennium man recommends that you invest in. We don’t know what’s happened to the price, by the way; our advice is to BUY IT before Amazon realise their mistake.
Buy this book, and read it before you go shopping. Don’t forget to give all your old clothing to a worthy cause!
Do you still reckon that reading books is boring? Shame on you. You are missing ten fantastic opportunities to seriously change your life for the better. Your career, your social status, your love life will all improve by applying what you’ve learned in these books.
We’ve included Amazon UK links to these books for your convenience. These prices, even if you buy them new, are offered by Amazon at a serious discount (even more if you buy secondhand) over the recommended price. Click on the links, add them to your Basket and buy several at once. You’ll save on the postage & packing costs too.
Have you read these books? Did they make a big difference? Do you have a comment, or a recommendation you’d like to offer your fellow Third Millennium Men? Please FEEL FREE to add a comment in the box below. We are genuinely interested in what you have to say (positive feedback is always welcome!).